This has been on my mind of late, but I had to make sure I had the right intentions before I put it out there. The wrong intentions were my own selfishness and insecurity and need for verbal reassurance. That is if commenting on a blog counts as “verbal”.
I argued to my family that blogging created some kind of, well, social network. Albeit superficial at times, nonetheless it brought people together. We were communicating.
We were communicating.
I don’t mind sending my thoughts to the cosmic void. That sort of goes back to my original “to blog or not to blog” self struggle. I write my thoughts sometimes for my own pleasure and this is the most enjoyable forum.
But it would be self-deceit if I claimed I wrote them only for myself. I like to know that they are contributing in some way to someone else. Or contributing in some way to the relationships I share with my fellow bloggers. For example, through blogging I have better maintained relationships with people I otherwise might have lost contact with. I have also “met” new individuals and developed new relationships. I like to think that our relationships outside of blogging are strengthened by blogging.
But all this is based on a two-way street. Takes two to tango, and I am feeling a little like I have been deserted. We all have the counters, we all keep a watchful eye on how many visitors we receive. Our hearts all sink when no one responds to our carefully constructed posting.
Here is my rally cry! Don’t let blogging be mindless entertainment. I will gladly step out and say that I am guilty of scrolling down through the google reader, scanning the blogs of my friends and the blogs of strangers, letting them all blur together. But this isn’t the kind of blog world I ardently defended to the critics.
You don’t have to patronize me with obligatory praise. Just let me know how you relate. Let me know you stopped by. Let the post evoke some kind of thought, take time to notice it, and then share it.
This is very corny. But it is sincere. I made sure of that before I let myself say it.
Don’t make me do a give away to pull all the commenters out of the woodwork…
(Yes, the music is my attempt at comic relief.)