we are a happy family

Bird family… party of SIX.

Simon was a surprise and four kids is hard. But I adore him of course. I am so glad he is here and it really feels right.

Richard blessed him on Sunday. It was a great experience. It always is. Thanks to all who came. My cup runneth over.

How do you spell choose-y anyway?

An anecdote about Richard:

The other day I asked Richard if he had heard about the tornadoes in the south. He said he had heard on ESPN radio that an Alabama football player had been injured during a storm. I suggested that perhaps sports radio isn’t the best way to stay up on current events.

This morning I read on Facebook that Osama Bin Laden had been killed. (I’m laughing out loud at myself for the irony of my last two sentences that didn’t occur to me until I typed them.) I called Richard and asked him if he’d heard the news. He responded “Yeah. I just heard on ESPN radio that last night at a baseball game as people got word of the news from their cell phones they started chanting “U.S.A.!” I laughed. He said “See? I can still stay up on things by listening to sports radio.”

In fairness, an anecdote about myself:


Richard and I had a great debate recently about the effectiveness of advertising. I was arguing about one form of advertising in particular. Can the people who stand on the sidewalk and wave signs for their business really be effective? This led to further discussions about marketing and I maintained that I was not generally influenced by advertising.

Later that evening I had the pleasure of Richard’s company at the grocery store. When I noticed that my usual brand of peanut butter was gone, I selected Jif. I made the following comment “I guess I’ll get Jif, beause I’m a choosey mom.”

You can imagine the gloating and that came in minutes that followed. And the hours. And the days.

smile. no… SMILE!

The fact that there are more pictures of Miriam than the boys is no indication of my love for each of my children, just that Cameron and Eli’s pictures all looked mostly the same. I just chose the best version of their phony smiles.

When I really get motivated I’ll dress all four of them up and attempt a picture of them all. (Or I guess I should say, Krista will attempt a picture of them all.)

Miriam gives me the expression above at least 1,407 times each day. I love it. And I am so glad we have it captured for the ages.

Girly girl! Or no?

My daughter loves shoes. I am not sure if I should be excited or nervous. I also painted her toenails for the first time and she loved it.

I would say we’ve got ourselves a diva, but yesterday the “Seasonal Rabbit” at Grandma Bird’s brought Miriam a bunny and the boys footballs. She gave the bunny a sweet hug and then reached for the football.

Spring Game

On Saturday Richard took the boys to the BSU Football Spring Game. Cameron was so excited to go to the Bronco field. Afterwards he told me all about the defense and how the offense didn’t look so good. Ever since the game either Cameron or Eli will periodically shout “And that’s another Bronco… FIRST DOWN!”

These jerseys were a birthday gift from a grandma who knows her grandsons well. This is their best action shot. (It had to be an action shot, Cameron wouldn’t just stand still and let me take a picture.)

I guess by having player jerseys and going to the spring game, we have taken our fan-dom to a new level.

St. Patty’s Day Race

Another event pre-Simon was Cameron’s St. Patrick’s Day race. It was the same race he ran a year ago, with Mark. It’s been six months since Mark’s stroke but he came to the race and it was a meaningful experience for me, and hopefully for Cameron too.
There were lots of friends there and they all wore stickers in Mark’s honor. Richard ran with Cameron and Eric (far right) this year. Unfortunately I missed Cameron coming across the finish line because I was looking for Richard, who apparently was having great conversations with Eric while they ran. Thankfully Grandpa Bird was there to cheer Cameron across the line.

Simon strikes a pose

Richard and I usually go to bed around 10:00pm. The house is dark and quiet. I guess Simon doesn’t like it. During the day he is a pretty content baby, but once the lights go out…

I try to put him to bed around 9:30 so he’ll be asleep by the time we are ready to sleep. Without fail he wakes up around 10:00 ready to party. So we hang out, the two of us, until about 11:30. He’s looking at me now,wide-eyed, as I type. I love babies.

the first rough day

I already mentioned that I had a goal of waking up and showering before the kids were up in the morning. I have been doing well at this until this morning. Simon is a great sleeper at night, once he falls asleep. But each night the past few days he has stayed up later and later being fussy. So this morning I didn’t make an effort to get up. I woke up as the sun came through my window and knew I was in trouble. My other mistake that set me up for failure this morning was neglecting another goal of mine, to have the kitchen clean each night when I go to bed. This proved to be the cause of additional stress.

I asked Richard what time it was and he told me, 7:30. Exactly the time to wake up Cameron for school. As I attempted to do so (he was not cooperative) Eli started crying because he had wet the bed. I changed his clothes but left the sheets to be dealt with later. I continued to “encourage” Cameron to wake up and get dressed while I started breakfast. I made Cameron’s lunch all the while he sat on the laundry floor crying about the clothes he wanted to wear. I was beginning to lose patience. A mother’s life is a great deal of what I referred to earlier as “encouraging.” Nagging is probably the better word. “Wake up, wake up, WAKE UP! Get dressed, get dressed GET DRESSED! Eat your breakfast, eat, EAT!” In thinking about the morning later I’ve decided that there has to be a better way. Cameron needs to take a little initiative and do those things without my “encouragement.” I’ll be working on a plan for that…

About this time Miriam woke up, and so I got her breakfast. Then Simon woke up but his breakfast was going to have to wait until Cameron got off to school. More nagging. “Put your jacket on, get your backpack, watch out the window for your ride. Don’t make her wait, it’s rude to make people wait.” Simon is not happy, lots of crying. The ride comes, he’s on his way.

I fed Simon first breakfast, I try to feed him small meals to help with the spit-up, knowing that he’ll be hungry again shortly. Miriam is done with breakfast, clean her up and change a poopy diaper. Eli is done with breakfast, clean him up and get him ready for preschool. It’s only 8:42, I have time to eat breakfast myself!

Let the dog out, feed the dog, take Eli to preschool. Upon returning home, Simon is ready for second breakfast. For the first few minutes, without her brothers there to entertain her, Miriam is attempting to climb all over me. Then she disappears. It’s quiet, I’m nervous. I finish feeding Simon, he spits up all over but it’s his turn to wait again. Miriam is in the kitchen, eating someone’s bowl of tomato and rice soup from last night’s dinner. Big red mess. Change her clothes. Back to Simon. Change his diaper, change his clothes. I want a shower. I smell like spit-up and haven’t washed my hair since Sunday. What to do with Miriam. I grab the magna-doodle that she loves and keep her in the bathroom with me. Take a shower, when I get out she is poopy again. I start to change her, it’s a blow out. Change her clothes again, plus now she has a diaper rash.

Everywhere I go in the house someone or something demands my attention. The diaper garbage can is overflowing, the kitchen is still a mess, Miriam’s poopy and soupy clothes need to be washed, Eli’s sheets need to be changed. Not to speak of other household messes and tasks. I’m definitely feeling overwhelmed.

A knock at the door. It’s the J-Dubs. Sorry J-Dubs, not today. A phone call. It’s Richard and he has good news. It brightens my day. Another phone call. It’s my mom, and she’s going to come get the kids in the afternoon. I think I’m going to make it! Simon is asleep. I look around for Miriam. She is curled up on the floor with her blanket, sucking her thumb. It’s only 10:27 and I think she is as exhausted as I am. So I pick her up and we rock in the recliner for awhile. But it’s almost time to pick up Eli from preschool and I haven’t dried my hair yet.

I love the life I’m living. I really do. On most days diaper rashes and laundry are easy enough to handle. And the pay-offs are great. Cameron had a great report card. Eli sings songs to Simon. Miriam gives kisses. And of course Simon meets the measure of his creation by just existing.

This afternoon I’ll put the house together and take a nap. Tonight I’ll clean the kitchen before I go to bed and in the morning I’ll get up early and shower.