humanity

I am ashamed to admit that I am frequently surprised at the number of kind and amicable people in the world. I’m still not quite sure why I think friendly people are so rare. Maybe it is more related to my lack of noticing them rather than their lack of existance. Perhaps my charitable mood during my travels caused people to open up to me and allowed me to notice and appreciate their goodness.
In any case, I encountered many caring people while I was away. Not just my wonderful American travel companions or the Peruvians we served, but strangers on my flights and the employees of the hotel where we stayed. On my eight hour flight from L.A. to Lima I sat next to an Indian (from India) student of the air force academy on his way with a buddy to Peru for Spring Break. He was polite, friendly and gracious. He humored me by looking at pictures of my boys and flattered me by saying how adorable they are. There was also a motherly woman
next to me on my flight from Lima to Cusco who oogled over pictures of Cameron and Eli and chatted me through some wild turbulence.

I love it when the world feels small. I love it when all it takes to make a connection with someone is having one thing in common. What I already knew was the obvious, that we all have one thing in common. Our humanity. What I learned is that it really does unite us.

One evening Kim and I were wandering the streets of Cusco and came across these dancers. We watched them for awhile and after they finished I asked if I could take their photo. One young man grabbed my camera and pushed us into the picture where the others adorned our heads with their festive hats.

A couple in the market that I made some purchases from. He actually didn’t like this picture, and requested that I try again but the second one didn’t turn out.

Pepe and Ernesto are employees of Ascend that work with the American groups that come to do humanitarian work. They were so humble and Ernesto worked so hard to make us laugh.


This is Sabino. I bought this painting from him and then in his best English and my best Spanish we talked for 20 minutes. I showed him pictures of my family (what a proud mother I am!) and he told me about his love for art and “motos” and his bad motorcycle accident. I wanted to hug him when we said good-bye.

Teaching the kids the hokey pokey…
They told us to bring things that we could use to interact with kids. I brought this magnadoodle and asked the kids to “escribe tu nombre”. They loved it.

service

I spent the first day in the village with the medical team. We set up a clinic that included a triage where we took vitals and a chief complaint, three exam rooms, and a small pharmacy. My role this day consisted mostly of painting the fingernails of the little girls and teaching basic toothbrushing skills.

The next two days I spent with the dental team. These days were much more intense and difficult. With the help of a translator I did exams and then gave the injections to numb their mouth for the dentists. We did only fillings and extractions. It was emotionally and physically hard. The Peruvians were stoic but at any given moment there were children screaming and crying. The line went on and on and we had to eventually turn people away.

This girl was especially nervous, but her mother said her tooth had been hurting for over a year. I had to coax her through the entire procedure and by the end I felt like we had accomplished something major together.

All my life I have been taught that by serving others you learn to love them. Now I can testify that to be an undeniable truth. I do not speak Spanish well, and many of our patients only spoke Ketchua. But the look of gratitude in their eyes endeared them to me forever.
I don’t know if I will ever have another opportunity to provide service in another country to people so different from myself. But I believe the principle applies everywhere. My dad always taught me, True happiness comes not from the way others treat us, but from the way we treat others. And when I got there, in that moment when I was thinking entirely about the well-being of these people, one at a time, it felt wonderful.

work

Peru is famous for the ancient Incan ruins. Rightly so. No matter how many sites we visted I never ceased to be amazed at the extreme effort that was required to construct the walls and terraces. The tools were primitive but the manpower was not lacking.

Saqsaywaman is known for the sheer enormity of the rocks. Without a doubt they were huge.

Pisaq had endless terraces used for farming. We were told that they reconstructed the terraces each year to rotate the soil.

Machu Picchu deserves it’s own post. But anyone who has ever witnessed something breathtaking knows that pictures will never do it justice. Just imagine, an entire city in the middle of the jungle, built on top of a mountain 500 years ago. The most physically challenging part of our trip was climbing to the top of mount Waynu Picchu, which overlooks Machu Picchu. The way up the mountain is a rugged and steep Incan staircase, and by stairs I mean rocks. They have installed rope for help on the way up and down.

The view of Machu Picchu from atop Waynu Picchu.
This is me, feeling thrilled at top of this mountain.

The Inca people may have spent their lives in hard labor, but not much has changed for the current Peruvian people. If you click on this picture you can see how high up the side of the mountain the farms are. To get a general idea of the magnitude of the mountains just use the buildings in the valley as a scale. No small task for the people to climb the mountain each day to work on the farms.

Everywhere they go these women carry the alpaca wool and spin it into the thread they use for clothing. In society as we know it here in the United States and in westernized civilization we take the path of least resistance in most of what we do. Successful ideas and products are designed to make our lives easier. Our bread is sliced, “hand-wash only” articles of clothing are taken to the dry-cleaner, our pizza is delivered and even our pharmacy has a drive-through.

Here is my point: I am grateful that I don’t have to break a sweat each day just to survive. The freedom of modern convenience gives me opportunities to spend time playing with my children, preparing a good meal, or reaching out to others. Laziness is not an option for the villagers of Peru and I pray that laziness will never be the reason I don’t take advantage of the opportunity of time available to me.

about Peru…

I thought about writing a daily play-by-play photo/narrative about where I went, what I saw and I what I did. But what I really want to write about isn’t just facts and locations but also what it all meant for me. So I want to write by topic, so to speak, about the lessons I learned and the experiences that inspired me. With a lot of pictures included of course.

(This is the city of Cusco, 11,000 feet elevation, population 300,000. We slept and ate here and suffered headaches and various other ailments resulting from altitude sickness.)

a temporary absence

Although my departure isn’t for another five days I can already feel the stress of the coming week setting in. It is knocking at the door the same way a sore throat indicates a cold is coming on. So although I might rather blog than tackle some of the tasks that await me; it is best that I focus my energies on making sure my home and children will survive 10 days without me. (Of course they will, but if I admit that what will happen to my self-worth?)

Thank you everyone for your contributions. I am excited but also a little anxious about my upcoming adventure. I can only imagine the blog posts that will be born of this experience and I am determined NOT to come home and post a thousand pictures that will not do justice to my thoughts. But post I will, because I have been advised that sharing my ponderings is an important part of this expedition.

Cheerio!

coins have been counted

Due to poor timing on my part Richard had to take my dear pickle jar to the credit union without me. I missed that exciting moment. But upon hearing the total my sadness was quickly dispelled. It should be more than enough to cover the Peruvian handbag.

$102.81 – Take that Bryan, guesser of $23.07!
(I thought about taking a picture of the receipt for proof but it was full of account information that I’m not about to post online.)

So if my calculations are correct that makes Angela (Michaelangelo) first place with her guess of $125.97.

And Liberty in second place with her guess of $77.77.

Thanks everyone for playing, I really enjoyed this. I’ll be in touch with the winners.

the time has come

When I first started blogging there were two blog-isms that I vowed I would never use. They were blog ads and blog giveaways. And while I will always be ad-free, I am selling out to the give-away frenzy.

Richard will tell you that once I get an idea I am most disappointed if it is not executed. This idea was just too fun to resist.

The day I decided I was going on a humanitarian trip to Peru was nearly four years ago. After telling Richard about my intentions I went to the kitchen and cleaned out a giant pickle jar that I had bought when I was pregnant with Cameron. (Sure loved pickles!)


This jar has served as a constant reminder and motivator to me and although Richard insisted we save up the money in other ways (good idea Richard) I have put all my change in it ever since.

So here is the giveaway part.

It’s a guessing game.

How much money is in the jar? (Note: I have no idea, the jar has not been opened or counted since it’s original taping.)


First prize: (Is not the money in the jar, sorry.) An authentic Peruvian handbag. Men- do not be deterred, it would make a great gift.

Second prize: A dozen homemade cards, a potpourri of birthday, thank you, wedding and baby.


Okay folks- hit me with your best shot. I’ll be taking the coinage to the credit union on Saturday. (Prizes will be delivered or mailed, all participants are welcome. No purchase necessary, void where prohibited.)

10 minutes that meant so much

If you could compare motherhood to formal education, you might say that about eight months ago I joined some extra-curricular activities.

I committed myself to these activities with the hopes that I would impress people, or gain their respect. A great part of my insecurities stem from my perception of other’s opinion of me.

A marvelous thing has occurred over the course of my extracurricular journey. I found a new self-confidence arising, which was exactly what I had hoped for. But a couple weeks ago I realized something very critical. I realized that my self-assurance didn’t come from the respect and admiration I had been seeking. To be honest I have no idea if my peers view me any differently knowing the new ways I spend my time.

My confidence came from knowing that I was capable of hard things. It came from knowing that I had set goals and accomplished them. And the beauty of it was that I didn’t have to consciously tell myself those things, I just knew them, and it changed the way I felt about myself in wonderful way.

I’m still a long way from not needing outside approval. But progress…


Yesterday I ran my second 10k. I cut ten minutes from my original time and I was on top of the world. I am not a psychologist. But I believe that you can read book after book about self-respect but nothing will really change inside you the way that going out and doing something hard, and then doing it again will change you.

So whether it is putting together a delicious meal, taking a yoga class or volunteering somewhere the sacrifice it takes to get you there will be worth the emotional reward. In the words of Dr. Laura:

“Get off your butt and go sign up for kick boxing.”

the 5 year appliance breakdown

It seems that we are reaching a milestone in our marriage. It isn’t the “Seven-Year Itch” (not quite there yet) or a major anniversary (not there yet either). It is what I have creatively named “THE 5 YEAR APPLIANCE BREAKDOWN”.

When we got married we outfitted our house through one of two sources. The first was the generosity of our friends (and mostly our parents’ friends) who bought us the obligatory appliance. (Some were good quality, some were not.)

The second source was hand-me downs. It seems that we have reached a milestone where our poor quality gifted blender and especially our garage sale vacuum are going the way of the … landfill?

I’m not sure where we got this iron, I think it was Richard’s from his bachelor days. But you can see the brown spots? That is from when he (somewhat recently but too long ago for me to admit we haven’t been ironing) dropped it on the floor and the carpet fibers melted to it. I made the mistake of trying to use this and stained Cameron’s white church shirt with brown spots. Dang it.
In addition to the smoking blender, the vacuum that doesn’t suck, and the melted-carpet iron our dvd player recently died forcing us to READ for entertainment. And while we can continue to have poorly vacuumed floors and wrinkly clothing, we can not survive without a dvd player.

Yes, I am shamelessy admitting that the dvd player was the last of our electronics to sub-perform and the first to be replaced.

crayola disaster, Take II

Last night Eli was caught red-handed coloring our new floors with black crayon. He was punished, lectured, etc. I was telling my friend who was here to witness the incident that Cameron “never did stuff like that”.
It was forgotton for the evening and this morning Cameron made a confession. “I colored on the floor.” I was a little surprised, because as I mentioned Cameron has never been the destructive child. But not surprised at all because if in fact Cameron was coloring on the floor first, of course Eli would take over the task when abandoned by Cameron – because Eli copies his every move. And Eli has no inhibitions with regard to vandalism.

So I put both of them to work scrubbing the floors with washcloths. Which of course accomplished nothing, but maybe helped to teach a lesson. I didn’t want to give them the Magic Eraser because I had received one of those emails about the horrors of burns on children from the Magic Eraser.
You know, the kind of email that makes you want to not even OWN them. But I do own them, because I owe the survival of my children to them for making these episodes relatively painless and forgivable and making me a much less angry mother.